Congratulations Lady Gaga
On February 13, Lady Gaga won several awards at the 2011 Grammy’s, including Best Pop Vocal Album. We’re writing not only to congratulate her, and the other winners, on their accomplishment, but more so because of what Lady Gaga said during her acceptance speech. When she accepted the award for Best Pop Vocal Album she said,
“I wanted to thank Whitney [Houston], because when I wrote Born this Way, I imagined she was singing it — because I wasn’t secure enough in myself to imagine I was a superstar. So, Whitney, I imagined you were singing Born This Way when I wrote it.”
At some point in writing that song, she could have taken herself out. She was insecure about herself and her superstar status. She could have shut her songbook and sabotaged herself and her career. In our “Between Men and Women” Couples Wellness Weekend Donna and I see it over and over again…how women can hardly bare to acknowledge what they want for fear they don’t deserve it or can’t have it. They work their feminine magic against themselves to ensure they don’t get it because desire unrealized can be too hard to bare. Women are the ultimate self-saboteurs.
Lady Gaga didn’t do this when she wrote “Born This Way”. She hit an obstacle (her insecurity) and instead of taking herself out she went through it. What Lady Gaga showed is her awareness of her potential for self-sabotage and her skill in making use of the tools she has to get where she wants to go. She used her creativity and imagination, which are the keys to her success on stage, and applied them to writing another hit song. For women, knowing what can trip you up in life is critical, and more often than not it’s yourself. More important, however, is believing you deserve everything you want and then using the tools you have to get it. Those tools include not only your personal strengths, but also your relationship with your partner.
Congratulations Lady Gaga for your Grammy awards and more importantly for the example.
Do you know how you sabotage your own life? Do you know what trips you up and keeps you down? Do you know the precious resource your “heart-nership” is for your own well-being and for getting what you want in partnership with your significant other? “Between Men and Women” answers these questions and more. Our work is about showing you what’s important to know about yourself and your partner so you can start practicing habits of relating that will reduce stress and multiple well-being in life. You can start today by downloading our free ebook here:
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