Dating Tips for a Fun and Romantic Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is supposed to be fun and romantic. That expectation, however, can also make this time of year stressful for men who want to “Wow!” their partner but are not exactly sure how to do that, and for women who want to be “Wowed!”, but are nervous about what might be coming around the corner so-to-speak. With the economy the way it is, money concerns add to a man’s doubt about whether he can pull off the date he knows she wants. This applies whether you’re on a first date or have been married for 20 years. All men are fundamentally the same, as are all women.
Men relax, and here are a few suggestions I hope will help:
1) In your relationship, your top priority should be knowing what your partner wants and producing it. You’ll be her hero. If you’re not already doing it, start paying attention to ANY indication about what she wants - what she’s talking about, if she smiles when you bring up a certain subject, what she looks at in the store windows, anything that grabs her attention - and make a list. Keep it somewhere you’ll see it often - in your daytimer, your wallet, your desk at work, wherever. Having that list handy will take a lot of the guesswork out of planning special date nights or of knowing that perfect birthday, Christmas or Valentine’s Day gift. Even with Valentine’s Day just around the corner, it’s never too late to start, and keep doing it year around.
2) If money is an issue, be creative in producing an experience she’ll love. Again, it helps if you know what she wants and likes. She will appreciate the effort and the thought that goes into what you produce. It will show her you are attentive and will make her feel cherished.
3) Women are all about motion, change and the “experience”. What they want one day can change quickly so don’t make assumptions. Keep being attentive.
Ladies, here are a few things to keep in mind:
1) Your partner really does want to make you happy, more than anything else. You might be saying, “You don’t know my guy!” In this regard, all men are pretty much the same. We see it in the Divine Dance Workshop all the time. Although he’s bound to slip up (it happens to all of us) he’ll keep trying if he’s feeling good in the relationship. Try to remember to make a real effort to find something he did you liked, and tell him how much you appreciated it. Approval from you is the fuel that drives him, and you’ll see the fruits, we promise. Again, this is important to do all year long, not just on special occasions.
2) Men can’t read your mind, so if there’s something you really want to do this Valentine’s Day, or anytime, let him know somehow. Tell him, “I’d love it if…,” or even drop some fairly obvious hints. He will appreciate the help, and you are more likely to get what you want.
3) This is important…really important! No matter what you want, no matter how big or small or how likely or unlikely you think it is you’ll get it, no matter what, ask for what you want. Not the scaled down version, but the real deal. If he’s feeling good about himself and the relationship. He’ll like the challenge. Your desire is what defines you, and all women, so let it rip! As in any genuine request, there is always a chance he’ll say, “No” or “Not now.” Just be with that, and let him know you believe in him - e.g., “I know you will figure it out honey.”
Let us know what you think. We’d love to hear what he did for you, or what you did for her on Valentine’s Day.
Now Go Celebrate a Man…Win with a Woman!
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