Forgiving Ourselves

Jason and Donna (© 2009-2011 Inner Sync Systems Inc. All Rights Reserved.)

Like half the planet (at least half the planet fortunate enough to have the luxury of a computer), I was on Twitter a few minutes ago sending out tweets, re-tweeting, messaging and all those other things we do in the era of social networking.

Anyway, I came across a quote I liked and I added it to our Great Relationship Quotes discussion on our Facebook Page. The quote was simply,

“If we really want to love we must learn how to forgive.” ~Anonymous

That’s not a new idea, yet it’s an important one to remember. Things won’t always go as we want them to in our partnerships, but if we focus on what’s not going “right” that is what will keep showing up. What we focus on is what we get. Forgiving everyday seems to help put the “bad” stuff behind us so we can focus on what we love and appreciate about our partners and move forward with what we are creating in our lives.

Where does self-forgiveness fit in?

While it’s natural to focus on the “other” person when something happens to us, we often don’t fully understand our own energic role in the event…that there is an energic connection between ourselves and the person or circumstance that appears “wrong” to us.

This idea is at the core of an ancient Hawaiian healing methodology called Ho’oponopono. Donna has been practicing it, and recently I’ve found myself doing the same. Ho’oponopono  acknowledges the energic connection between us and the weirdness that shows up in our lives seemingly from “out there”. Like modern quantum physics, Ho’oponopono is an ancient recognition that their is no separation between you, others, the Universe and everything. It asks, “What is it in me that pulled that experience into my reality?” So when weirdness shows up in life and in relationship healing comes from putting love on the situation and ourselves, and asking for forgiveness from the Divine. It’s very powerful. It keeps you in a place of love rather than blame.

Having your “heart-nership” evolve in the direction you want it to go is often as simple as understanding the invisible conversation that is always going on between men and women. You can start today by downloading our free ebook here:

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As always, come back and let us know about your comments on this post. Take care.

 

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