Miracles Take Many Forms
Awhile back “Bill” and “Carla”, shared during their “Divine Dance of the Sexes” Couples Weekend Workshop that they had recently been told they couldn’t have kids. Carla desperately wanted the experience of having a family. Bill felt helpless because he believed there was nothing he could to make that happen for her.
In the Divine Dance two of our key messages are:
- Women are desire. When a woman doesn’t at least believe she will get what she wants her light and vitality start to fade. There is nothing sadder.
- Men are master producers. Producing is where they are at their best and what has them feel their best.
Given these natural qualities of men and women its easy to see why this couple was upset. It seemed impossible that Carla’s desire for a family could be fulfilled, and Bill believed there was nothing he could do to produce what he knew would make her happy. It was starting to cause a rift in their relationship.
Miracles Do Happen
Several years ago one of Jason’s friends, let’s call her Sally, was in the exact same situation. Sally was in her early 20’s and was told she couldn’t have children. She and her partner, “Jack”, were upset but life went on. They always seemed to maintain a close bond and were deeply in love. Eventually they moved to Australia so they could both accept teaching positions at one of that country’s universities. A couple years later we got word that Sally was pregnant. Today Sally and Jack have two kids, both conceived naturally with no medical intervention.
The Funny Thing About Desire
Desire isn’t simply something you have. Desire is an energy, an attractive force. It’s the first step in pulling what you want into your life (see the post “Law of Attraction for Couples”), including things that seem impossible.
Of course, both men and women have desires - we all want something. But women have a very different relationship to desire. It’s who they are. They take unsatisfied desire personally. It’s letting that energy of desire flow freely that is so powerful; and when a man gets behind his woman’s desire - when supports her in her goals and even makes them his own - the space is created for receiving miracles. This is one of the key processes we explain during the Divine Dance.
Let’s Bring This Down to Earth - What We Want Bill and Carla to Hear
The combined energy of desire and production is a powerful Universal force that creates actual results in the world.
It’s not for us - i.e., people - to say how desire is satisfied. That’s up to the Universe. We just need to have the desire and be willing to receive what shows up. For Sally and Jack, their desire was satisfied with natural conception and childbirth. Who knows how Bill and Carla’s desire for a family will be manifested. Maybe through natural conception. Maybe through medical intervention. Maybe they will be driven to adopt a child locally or from another country. Maybe an opportunity will come to sponsor kids-in-need from Africa or other parts of the world. “Family” and the experience of nurturing children doesn’t have to look one way.
Here’s one process Bill and Carla can follow:
- First, Carla needs to be clear on what experience she is wanting from having kids. Perhaps her desire for children is actually a desire for an experience that having children would satisfy. Maybe that experience can be satisfied another way (e.g., adoption, sponsoring kids, working with children professionally). Bill can help Carla get clear on this.
- Bill is already behind Carla’s desire to have a family. He has already made this goal his own. A man being behind his woman’s desire is important because it will ground the process of making their goal a reality. It completes the “energic loop”.
- Bill commits himself to focused action with the intent of finding ways to have Carla’s desire made real. His actions alone show a willingness to receive. He shouldn’t be tied to finding a specific outcome. His willingness to receive opens the door for the Universe to satisfy their true desire.
- Bill and Carla need to stay connected. Bill can offer her ongoing attention. Cherish Carla. Serve her and your life together. Carla can let Bill know she appreciates him for everything he is doing regardless of the outcome or seeming lack thereof. Show that you trust him. (See the post “Healthy Love, Healthy Life “ for specifics on how to cherish her and appreciate him.)
We wish Bill and Carla every success in this process. And this post isn’t just for Bill and Carla. It’s for every couple that wants a process for creating miracles in your life using the power of who you are naturally as men and women. Please let us know how it works for you by leaving a comment below.
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Now Go Appreciate a Man and Cherish a Woman. That’s All It Takes.
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