A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Flower Shop
Donna and I did something new this Valentines Day. We celebrated the Seven Days of Valentines.
The week before Valentines Day I gave Donna a Valentines Day card everyday. Some were funny, some were heart-ticklers, some were a little risque. I also gave Donna a gift each day. On the Seventh day of Valentines (February 8th) I gave her a little bubble blowing kit. Another day she got a gift certificate to one of her favourite restaurants. Another day it was a coupon book redeemable for kisses and romance anytime. Donna loves flowers, so there are tulips, orchids, hyacinths and of course roses throughout the house. On Valentines Day - the First Day of Valentines - I gave her a card, roses and a bouquet of heart-shaped balloons that sang “How Great It Is to Be Loved By You.” Some gifts were playful, some were serious, some were experiential. Each of the gifts spoke to something I knew Donna loved - having fun, exploring, romance, beauty, life.
All week Donna told me how much fun she was having. The more fun Donna had, the more I wanted to do for her. Seeing how much she enjoyed it and how happy it made her was her gift to me. This energy Donna put into the process gave me purpose and that’s a key thing women do for men. Now today, Valentines Day, there is an energy in the house - a sparkling, crackling energy, a vitality.
What made that energy come alive? The answer is pretty simple actually. I gave Donna an experience. I knew what Donna likes (her desire) and I fulfilled on it (production). We both allowed ourselves to do what we do best - women are desire, men are about production. What’s key here is “willingness”. Women must be willing to receive - have their desire fulfilled; and men must be willing to produce for her. What’s really great is that this energy can be created everyday of the year, not just on February 14. This is the challenge we are laying out for you.
It sounds pretty mechanical, and that’s the beauty of it. In any system, including a system of relating, there are mechanics. And when the different parts of that system are in sync they create an awesome energy that gives us the experiences we want in life. And like any reliable system, the simpler the better. That’s why Donna and I always say,
“Now Go Appreciate a Man and Cherish a Woman.” That really is all it takes.
We invite you to experience the satisfaction of getting what you want in life by being in sync with your partner. Start today by downloading our FREE ebook, “A Couple’s Map to Everyday Happiness” at:
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We would love to hear about your Valentines Day experiences. Leave a comment below.
Now Go Appreciate a Man and Cherish a Woman. That’s All It Takes.
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This is great! When Jordan told me about this, I squealed. You two are the perfect combination.:)
Very sweet… and very smart.
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